thought this was worth sharing from art of manliness to all students.
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From: "Art of Manliness" <firstname.lastname@example.org>
Date: Aug 1, 2011 5:24 AM
Subject: The Four Archetypes of the Mature Masculine: Introduction
To: "Tech" <email@example.com>
“Open” when they were defending their shell of never opening. Or I tell people in my doctors office to lose weight. I get the answer, “Just because you’re thin you are being arrogant telling me to lose weight. Fat people have the right to stay fat.” Doctors as paid advisors have the right and expertise to tell you you need to lose weight and get healthier for your health because that’s what you hired them for. Calling the doctor arrogant is a projection that defends the person from facing the need and reasons to lose weight. (The arrogance truly lies with the fat person who is defending being unhealthy to a doctor!) So projection is a defense mechanism where you throw your insecurities and fears onto an object or person. Where you accuse someone of feeling just like you do only to protect your ego from addressing your own needs or to create a narcissistic space that protects you from having to hear the truth and fix any problems with it. In Shakespeare’s play and history, the Julius Caesar story is a prime example. Caesar had the state and senate’s success in mind, but Brutus and the senators felt he was getting “ambitious.” The true people who were getting ambitous were the senators themselves. But in order to justify their want for power, they stabbed caesar to death all in the guise of his “Ambition” despite his rule bringing some of the brightest times to Rome and the Senate. Many times projection causes a “Kill the messenger” mentality. Caesar was attempting to keep things as is, but saw ambitious factions in the senate. When he noticed, the ambitious factions accused him of ambition. Then Mark Antony’s famous speech about how Caesar was not ambitious, but the ones who stabbed him were. “Friends, Romans, countrymen, lend me your ears.” (Sorry that’s the shakespearean English major coming out of me) So when receiving advice, whether asked for or not, you end up taking a longer time to improve from that advice if you start projecting to defend yourself from the advice rather than see it for what it is. Your wingmen will sometimes enhance that narcissistic space and become enablers. Clear the mind. Meditate, and see that the truth comes to you.