THIS GUY WAS ME FOR 8 YEARS! Now I’ve learned game.
Student 1. Never read much about game and is always friend-zoned. Bootcamped with me once and yesterday was showing me video of him with an HB10 who fully consented to the video. He got the close on day 3 of bootcamp.
Student 2. In game for nearly a year. Bootcamps galore with some of the top companies in LA. No closes. Lots of numbers.
The difference? Outcome dependence. Student 1 had no expectations from his learning and after learning my base lecture series, used it directly in field and got the close. Student 2: full expectations that things would get better slowly and systematically with each newfound knowledge. With that frame he only improved incrementally only expecting certain waypoints of success.
We are humans. No such thing as waypoints. If you are open to what is in front of you and whatever happens, you get what you allow. If you already have a firm picture in your mind how long your training will take to get you the close, you are already behind before you started.
Start becoming independent of the outcome. Learn to have fun no matter what. Have a positive energy and vibe, and do things you like rather than pickup. Remember, it’s an enhancement to your life, not your life. If you make it your life, you haven’t learned one DAMN thing. Just replaced bad with bad….
Wait, what? This post isn’t anything about pickup? Just about the funk? Well if you don’t like funk stop reading. Don’t listen to this youtube. Funk is how you start vibe. Vibe is the way to learn game. Gambits let you feel vibe. Listen to the meters and you’ll learn how to vibe. Musically at first.
My wingman Dionysus just gave this explanation to our yahoo webgroup and I thought it was such good basic info that I wanted to put it up here for you guys. Lots of guys say they can’t tell a story. Most guys in pickup are introverts and have a hard time telling stories to groups and such. The usual recommendations are to take a toastmaster’s course or join their group. There is one online as well. However for basics of learning, there’s three parts to a good story.
One is a good lead in: “you’ll never believe this” “get this” “the funniest thing happened the other day” “you’d never guess what happened to me today”
Two is adding emotions. THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT LESSON FOR MEN who are usually hunter mentality and just get to the point and tell the facts. Well telling a story that is attractive to women takes more than “Just the facts, ma’am.” That’s how a news story is. Who what when where and how. Some pickup instructors actually make that the basis of their storytelling instruction. However women don’t react to the facts. They react to the EMOTIONS of the story. Ask yourself why romance novels are 100-200 pages long just to lead up to the actual sex scene, if there is one at all. It is pages and pages of description of how the romantic hero walks, talks, looks, smells, smiles, dresses, tastes, sounds etc etc. Every sense you can think of, including the sixth sense of chemistry makes it into the book.
If you want your story about picking watermelons at the grocery store to sound attractive, talk about the feeling, the senses and the emotions of it. How your mom taught you how to pick a ripe melon by thumping it and if it made that perfect sound, had that ripe green color, and feel, it was worth your picking it. It makes the listener actually feel like they are there in the story. “so i’m about to go on stage and bam! This feeling comes over me my stomach gets tied in knots. It’s kinda like that feeling you get when you first meet a really hot guy…”. More advanced students will know how to anchor the story, but to start out with, learn how to tell a story to women, not guys. EMOTION and the 5 sense are the key. Not the 5 “W’s” and an H.
Three is a good ending. A punch line that either gives her the feeling of laughter or of “aww that’s so cute” or “omg” or a feeling of good or connecting emotion. Reread Mystery’s gambits and see how he incorporates this into the story from having to save his stripper girlfriend to the little kid that flips him the finger. It may not be a long story or gambit, but there is always a sensory modality that is titillated in the story.
Just practice your story telling even to your guys and your friends and it will be easier in set. You become good at it over time. Practice makes perfect and just leading the conversation and holding court in the set with your storytelling is a major dhv and valued social skill.
Add to this the skill of tonality, trance voice. Use the voice that you can feel vibrating in your chest. If you place your hand on your chest, you should be able to feel vibration when you talk to allow the use of your trance voice.
Ross Jeffries had an exercise he has taught in past lectures. The “Watermelon” exercise in which you say the word “Watermelon” in several moods. Sexual (Of course), Inquisitive, commanding, curious, intrigued, excited, sad. Take the word through all the emotions and see how easily you can do the same in your stories. That will bring a woman to feel what you are feeling as well. RJ’s teachings in fact go more in depth into the energy you should feel in a sarge rather than how to tell a story, and at times moving through those energies is easier if you are telling a story to do so.
What you will learn over time in the field is that the content of the story becomes less important as you progress and the other skills become more important. Watch out what you speak about too. Having perfect tonality, voice, and emotion while explaining the story of how a doctor took a corn off your foot would not be beneficial. However the story about the guy’s udemy course that taught you how to read photographs, and how you suddenly identified 86 women on your facebook that were attracted to you, and you selected just one, and she ended up throwing you on the bed and giving you a lump from how wild she was… that may be a good story to tell with emotion and description.
Remember, go out and try this stuff out. It’s the only way to learn and improve.
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