Bootcamp results this weekend

This weekend 2 students and some year long students participated. One of the year long students got past his barrier and main desire to do a rapid escalation. He kiss closed during “Wreck the room time” in 5 seconds with a beautiful woman at a rooftop bar. The two other students, according to seasoned outside observers, look like they never had approach anxiety at all.

My wingman had a concert and a large amount of the local puas came out to play and meet up and build group cameraderie, and one of my students had a same night lay on bootcamp day 1. And his woman was happy and lucky to have him.

Hypnosis sessions done twice with major changes and 2 new members of technostudents are born to continue finding them and leaving them better, if they have to leave at all.

Interesting new video from Adam Lyons: Facebook game

Try out his suggestions and see if they work for you!

Behavioral Change Basics for the Master Pickup Artist Part 2

Behavioral change basics part 2.

One of the most basic plans to behavioral change is called the “Samric” plan. Simple. Attainable. Measurable. Repeatable. Immediate. Controlled by YOU. SAMRIC. If you’ve ever had to take a defensive driving course for too many tickets or speeding, you know this plan because this is how they teach you how to make behavioral changes.

Instead of just learning how to drive the speed limit, a Samric plan could be “To use cruise control more.” It’s simple, attainable, measurable, repeatable, immediate, and you control it. Perfect plan that overall leads to the ultimate goal of driving the speed limit.

So how do we apply this to social arts mastery?

Say your ultimate goal is to get better with women.  If you are reading this it better be. You currently have a set of behaviors related to this goal.

Behaviors are categorized in 3 ways. 1. Ineffective behaviors 2. Short Term Behaviors, 3. Effective behaviors.

 

1. Ineffective behaviors are those which make matters worse or stagnant. They are unrealistic, unsatisfying, and can be irresponsible at times.

Examples: Not opening. Putting women on a pedestal. Poor body language. Buying girls drinks.

2. Short term behaviors are those which serve as quick fixes that make things better for a time but don’t help your long-term behavior.

Examples: Reading shit tons of material without going out. Peacocking. Gambit learning. Hitting on unsavory women who are easy. Negging all the time. Having a conversation stack. Most of the guys who come to me for training are at this level of game because many fly-by-night PUA companies can only teach this.

3. Effective behaviors: Help you get what you want in a responsible, realistic, and ethical/legal way.  This is what Technostudents in the game have as their ultimate behavioral goal.

Examples: Opening who you are interested in. Doing good things for people. Learning seductive reasoning and eliminating “Sluts vs. Whores” from your vocabulary. Hypnosis.  Tapping. Meditation. Eliminating drinking as a crutch. Wrecking the room to see what’s possible. Always closing. Always opening. Befriending worthy men instead of amogging.

Now you have a benchmark for your behavior. My students have the advantage of seeing me as the example. I elevate all my women and I don’t neg or make them feel bad. You should question your behaviors for effectiveness this way: Ask yourself…

1. IS it responsible? Responsible behavior allows you to meet your needs without restricting others from meeting their needs. You get what you want while respecting the rights of others, especially the women (Does amogging fit in here? It does if it responsibly teaches a guy to stop doing it to his detriment.). The ultimate in responsible is where you and the people around you have their needs met by your behavior.

2. IS it realistic? (Practical. Sensible.). It’s reasonable or attainable. (If your first week you want to set as your behavioral goal to lay a playboy playmate, that’s fine but not realistic in 1 week. some people can pull it off, but you will get into your head and think you are a failure if you don’t set a realistic goal at first that can be a success. Like just plainly opening.

3. IS it Right/Legal/Ethical?  avoid illegal behavior. Simple as that. I know of several gurus teaching “instant rape.”

So the Samric plan is the way to convert ineffective and short term behaviors to effective behaviors. The best way is to make sure all components are covered in the plan and all questions are answered  to the positive as far as effectiveness.

For instance, say you are new to game. You can’t open. What is a good samric plan to change this behavior?

You must first list the behavior you want to change. “I want to open more.”

Second you must answer what new habits you want to develop.

When in a social setting or when I see a woman I’m interested in, I open her all the time.

Third make an action plan.

1. Go out 3 nights a week. (Simple, attainable, measurable just by counting to three, repeatable every week, immediately can be started, controlled by the student. All samric criteria covered.)

2. Open the first set on the right every time I enter the venue both alone or with a wing. (Simple, attainable, measurable, repeatable, immediately can be started, controlled by the student. All samric criteria covered.)

3. Get a wingman, or PUA instruction from MPUA Technoslaughter and FOLLOW HIS DIRECTIONS AND COMMANDS. (Simple, attainable, measurable, repeatable, immediately can be started, controlled by the student for the most part. Samric covered.)

So if your action plan to get better at game is to go out 3 nights a week, open the first set on the right at every venue you enter, and to get instruction from me, do you see how this is an easy way to get effective behavior that steps away from short term or ineffective behaviors? You could easily see how a simple plan can allow you to change your behaviors and get past your improvement opportunities immediately so that you can get further faster in your game. You can hit the waypoints that lead to more fruitful, wonderful relationships with women in faster time.

So pick a behavior you want to change, Choose the simple, attainable goals that will create effective change, and do it consistently until it becomes your new, consistent behavior.

So many men have been through this journey that you know most of the waypoints that can get you to the bedroom consistently and with ease. In fact Neil Strauss wrote “Rules of the Game” with this type of behavioral change journey in mind. And avoid doing it all at once. Keep it simple and attainable.

1. Go out 3-5 nights a week

2. Open  sets in field each time you go out

3. Have a memorized opener to use if you go blank

4. Kino 3 times  each interaction. Thumb wrestle.

5. Learn an esoteric skill. (Cold reading, palm reading, the cube, Tarot, handwriting analysis, Kokology. Magic. Pick one.)

6. Make statements only, no interview questions.

7. Memorize a number close gambit

8. Make a calendar of events that are social that you can invite women to.

9. Listen to Ross Jeffries’s “Nail Your Inner Game” or Hypnotica’s “Sphinx of the Imagination” Nightly to get  needed inner game changes to get congruence.

10. Learn how to state your intent

11. Learn Nick Quick and Epik’s Same Night System’s 5 logistical questions and ask all 5 of a woman during an interaction.

12. Learn 1-2 sexual techniques to have bedroom confidence as taught by David Shade.

13. 1 activity a week related to having an improved/exciting lifestyle (Skydive, house party, scuba, street hockey etc.)

14. Wreck the room: Push your boundaries right when a set is cold or dying.

Now start DOING the things above you need to work on.

Behavioral Change Basics for the Master Pickup Artist Part I

Behavioral Change Basics for the Master Pickup Artist Part I

Over the last few weeks I’ve seen several students just stuck in their learning and old patterns. They a so stuck they just don’t even open even though they are spending their hard earned cash to have me next to them. They are findings their barriers too strong to allow for behavioral change. So with these students in mind I went back to my teaching archives to explain how to make behavioral change more understandable and for them to come up with their own personal, simplified plans for creating behavioral change and blasting through improvement opportunities. (I don’t call them sticking points. It’s a nice marketing ploy to get people stuck so they keep buying products or bootcamps). So this is the first part to explain basic behavioral change. The second part will explain how to make the change easy. Also I just had to take a driving school for speeding, and this is what the instructor helped teach as a way to change my speeding during driving. So it was fresh in my head…

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Human behavior is 4 components: doing, thinking, feeling, body reactions.    They are affected by our wants and driven by our needs. So if you imagine that human behavior is a car, the 4 components work like four wheels on a car. They all work together to allow the car to roll along. Our wants steer us like the steering wheel, and our needs are the engine that drives and powers the wheels forward.

All these things are interacting to decide our behavior. We are powered by our needs, steered by our wants, but we have 4 tires affecting our power and ultimate direction: Doing, Thinking, Feeling, and body reactions.

The front wheels are our doing and thinking since this is where we have control on the direction of our behavior. But the only component you have COMPLETE control of is DOING. Doing is the easiest portion of the behavior car to control and change.

Now luckily us top gurus have hypnosis and NLP and tapping to affect the feeling and body reactions and thinking so there is a way to shift those frames and feelings rapidly, but those ultimately are not under your control… moldable but not under your control for the most part.

So when you stay home you aren’t doing. When you stand there and refuse to open, you are not doing. When you are told to wreck the room and you don’t, you are not doing.

You are making a behavior choice by not doing. If this metaphorical car is your behavioral change, by not doing, you are choosing to sit in a car that isn’t moving with the engine running and wasting gas and money at 3.50 per gallon. 

You are a car just sitting there rather than steering to a new direction of purposeful behavior while moving forward. YOU have full control over doing. We want your car doing NASCAR speeds and nearly hitting the walls, but in control. It takes DOING.

So after you read this ponder this question. How important is improving relationships and the ability to attract women to you? How serious are you about it? Do you really want to meet women and attract them and have multiple win win relationships until you find the one or several?

If you don’t improve the relationships aspect of your life, what do you lose?

So if this is truly important to you… WHAT ARE YOU NOW WILLING TO DO TO GET WHAT YOU WANT? 

If you did not answer, “Go out in field as often as I can, open the women I’m interested in and all people, and follow my instructor’s instructions,” Then you may want to rethink what you are doing this for.

Many students currently are acting like a kid in a music lesson. The teacher says “Practice this this week”. The kid goes home and doesn’t practice. The next lesson they still play like shit and have not gained any momentum or improvement in their instrument playing. The teacher still gets paid, but the student has decided even though they want to be a rock star, they don’t want to do what it takes. It’s a passive aggressive tantrum.

Do you really want to change your behaviors and be attractive to women? Doing is the only way to get there. Doing is moving that front wheel drive forward so the behavioral change occurs. IF you don’t do, you really have to question your committment to change and getting all the things you see other guys doing.

Answer this now. On a scale of 1-10, how committed are you to making changes to your behavior while behind the steering wheel? 

If 7 or above, WHAT ARE YOU WILLING TO DO NOW AND COMMIT TO TO MAKE SURE YOU PUSH ON THE GAS?

WHAT THOUGHTS AND BELIEFS ARE YOU WILLING TO GIVE UP TO FINALLY MAKE SOME RAPID CHANGES in your behavior. IF you don’t do, your commitment is suspect. If you would rather have your balls grabbed than talk to a woman, I REALLY question your true committment. A guy who refuses to open is a guy who chooses celibacy. However, there are simple steps that can be undertaken to make you commit to smaller changes first that will add up to an overall improvement in your game. That will be in part 2. However make sure you answer the questions about your commitment.

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How Pornography Can Affect Your Libido

Destin Gerek, the Erotic Rockstar at http://eroticrockstar.com who I met at the 2010 Pua World Summit, had posted on facebook this article: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/how-porn-can-ruin-your-sex-life-and-your-marriage/  Destin is very aware of the energies of sexuality for men and women, and truly is a rockstar in the sex education field for men and women.  Unlike many PUA gurus out there, he actually has sex with women LOL. It was hilarious sitting on the New Blood Panel with him and seeing him shake his head “no” as a guru from California explained his poor technique at Cunnilingus (Even the said guru thought it was good). You can see Destin Shaking his head and laughing in the PUA World Summit DVD’s and it is a riot to watch.  There is a big difference between a guru who actually is an expert in sexual technique vs a guru who talks about getting lots of women, then struggles when discussing the sexual techniques he uses. So when it comes to male sexuality, Destin has been a great resource of information for me to impart to my students and I highly recommend his programs, especially if you have a need for resolution of issues with sexuality with women and it gets in the way of your game.

This article explains how porn addiction is possible and how, even if not addicted, it can affect your desires for sex and women.  More importantly it gives you an idea why pornography can actually dull your desires in field and your frame of sarging.  The graphs on stamina related to monogamy vs the constant search for different partners is stunning enough. Highly suggested reading despite the in depth coverage.  My recommendation to students is to avoid porn when learning game to allow their desires to amp up in field and make them more sexual. Their sexual energy changes the less porn they watch.  My concern is some PUA products are using porn stars now and despite being education, have a pornographic aspect as they teach sexual techniques. Unfortunately such videos can start the whole cycle and addictive aspects to porn.

So let this article be a caveat to what you could be doing to your sexual energy if you still watch pornography regularly.

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