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Nice Guys finish lasst

Great youtube LOL. And Kina Grannis. If you wanna make a girl melt have them watch her videos. Great hilarious song about the community. 

Website mention!

I was recently informed by Shawn who runs http://datingwebsites.org that I am a featured link!  http://www.datingwebsites.org/2011/08/twenty-online-resources-for-learning-to-pick-up-women/  is the page. Appreciate the mention!  He found my website professional and useful. Thanks!!!!  Mentions like this make me feel like all the hard work is worth it and only allows more men to see a different, anti-douchebag side to social arts training.

Bootcamp

I don’t usually advertise for others’ bootcamps, but this deal is just too good to be true. Sept 9-11 Knack will be doing an intense training weekend for only 350 dollars! Inquire at my email technoslaughter@gmail.com but this is sure to be a good experience. If you did not know, Knack was the “Behind the scenes” instructor for “The Pickup Artist” television show. A meet and greet with “Smoking Balls” Brian will be part of the bootcamp!  let me know if you are interested and I will hook you up with the well known, no-holds-barred instructor who gets you good fast. This is a bargain like no other.

Great Ted Talks to Help Your Game

The following video hit home for me today. We have had lots of arguments in the local NC game group. Some guys think they are good because they are getting lots of women. Others think they are good because they find themselves with the “Right” women in mutually beneficial relationships. Some guys think they are good because the latest technique got them laid by yet another different woman. Others think they are good because they used their genuine selves and personalities lead to a woman respecting and loving them for who they are on the inside.  Right now I have 2 sets of students. Those that look at women as the “Coins” they collect in a video game and those that look at women as the greatest thing on earth to join up with in mutual benefit.

 

The following two TED talks explain what I’ve been observing in many students and colleagues when it comes to their training. Sometimes they are fulfilling the new trend of “arousal addiction…” rather than becoming their best selves…

 

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Zimbardo illustrates that we are rewiring men more and more with arousal addiction: The desire for more different things. He doesn’t suggest any ways to improve this but is very frank how men are no longer men in social settings or in the bedroom due to this addiction. Prior to this a woman made the same observations…
 
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Her best quote: An ideal leader of the past was a dictator and told people what to do. An Ideal leader now, “is somebody who can foster creativity, who can get the employees to talk to each other, basically build teams and get them to be creative… and those are all things women do very well.” 
 
“Men are the new ball and chain.” Men are being seen as the losers in the shift from manufacturing economy to information economy.
 
The end result of all this info? Men need to retool, beware of arousal addiction, and keep a balance between analog vs. digital lifestyle to learn how to connect with women again.  It’s part of the foundation of my training for guys looking to get better with women. Slow things down, observe the women rather than your loins and your penis compass. Socialize in groups rather than spending hours in the man cave. It’s no surprise one of the latest headlines out there was about a guy who did a marathon video gaming session and died from a pulmonary embolus when blood clots formed in his legs from sitting in his house for close to 48 hours straight playing a popular video game.
 
You may be noticing the trend in the bar scene I’m seeing. Lots of successful women using the guys as sex toys. And the same night lay masters looking to provide them with good feelings. Many of my students are ok with that… however the end game is about finding women who mutually respect you. Men who are arousal addicted are perfectly fine being the sex tools for these women because a different women every day keeps that arousal up.  The “Natural” you are seeing out in field may actually be beta’ing himself so much to women that he has written off deeper relationships with women.  I’m noticing the mutual love and respect women have for men dwindling in this situation. Students are getting good at using “Game” to have many sexual encounters… but ending up empty on the inside because they have no relationship management skills to allow them to bond with anyone. They don’t have the alpha enjoyment of being the “Provider” anymore. The women they encounter more often than not are making much more money than them. I see hired guns paying more so for the apartment or car and their “slacker” boyfriends on the couch playing video games. I know about many of these guys because my students are having sex with their girlfriends who see their boyfriends as emasculated. If you can’t lead yourself to a better life, women see you as a failure in the bedroom too.
 
I’ve retooled my training to be more about regaining the alpha status and some equality back in relationships with women rather than being fooled into becoming their omega male sex toy.  Has your guru noticed this problem yet, and how it can emasculate you? You may be getting more sex, but you may also be getting more beta to your women you have sex with. Stay alpha, lead, provide, and avoid arousal addiction. Life is NOT a video game with points for every woman you lay. The path to being your best self involves surviving these shifts in the world’s view of the value of men and maintaining your manhood.  Game shouldn’t train you to be a ball and chain sex toy of a social set, but many so called puas are just that. Rise above it.

 

The Four Archetypes of the Mature Masculine: Introduction

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The Four Archetypes of the Mature Masculine: Introduction

The purpose of the Art of Manliness is to help men become better men. To that end, we often explore some of the problems unique to modern men and offer suggestions on actions they can take to overcome those problems. One problem that we discuss regularly on the site is that of the modern male malaise. Maybe you’ve experienced it: You feel restless and without a sense of purpose. You lack confidence in yourself as a man. You might be 20 or 30 or 40 years old, but you don’t feel like you’ve reached manhood.

A few weeks ago, we did a series called “The Five Switches of Manliness.” In it we made the case that within every man are psychological “switches” that must be turned on if a man wishes to activate his unique primordial masculine energy. The switches are how you power up the Wild Man within you and overcome the feelings of shiftlessness and male malaise that many men experience these days.

Another way of approaching the cure for the modern male malaise comes from the book King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine, by Jungian psychologist Robert Moore and mythologist Douglas Gillette. Moore argues that masculinity is made up of four archetypal male energies which serve different purposes. All men, whether born in the U.S. or Africa, are born with these archetypal energies. The authors argue that to become a complete man, a man must work to develop all four archetypes. The result of striving to become complete is a feeling of manly confidence and purpose.

King, Warrior, Magician, Lover was originally published in 1990, and it has had a pretty big influence on masculinity in America. It, along with Robert Bly’s book, Iron John: A Book About Men, kick-started the mythopoetic men’s movement of the early 1990s. During this time, many men in America started attending men’s groups and weekend retreats where they would take part in rites of passage and discuss ancient myths to gain personal insights about what it means to be a man. You can still see the influence of King, Warrior, Magician, Lover in books like Wild at Heart or weekend men’s retreats like The ManKind Project.

Some of the ideas in KWML are of the New-Agey, sensitive pony-tail guy, sitting in drum circles in the woods type. Personally, that sort of approach doen’t appeal to me as a man. I know lots of men that get a lot out of that sort of thing. To each their own. Nonetheless, I still feel like I benefited a great deal from reading the book and putting into practice some of Moore and Gillette’s ideas.

Over the next few months, we’re going to be delving into the four masculine archetypes in KWML. We’ll explore what they are and how you can access them on your journey to becoming a better man.

A Short Primer on Jungian Psychology

Psychologist Carl Jung

Like much of the literature in the mythopoetic men’s movement, KWML is grounded in the psychology of Carl Jung, particularly in his idea of psychological archetypes. To understand the four archetypes of masculinity, it’s helpful to understand a bit about Jungian psychology. I could devote an entire post to Jung’s psychology, but I’ll keep this brief for our purposes.

Carl Jung was one of the early and most influential modern psychologists. Ever take one of those Myers-Briggs type indicator tests? Those were inspired by Jung’s idea of extroverted and introverted personalities. Have you ever heard somebody talk about the “collective unconscious?” That’s Jung, too.

From 1907 to 1913, Jung closely worked with and studied under the the Father of Modern Psychology, Sigmund Freud. While the two shared many of the same ideas about the human mind, they had their differences. Jung agreed with Freud’s theory of the unconscious mind, but he thought Freud’s view was too negative and incomplete. Freud focused on the unconscious as the place in which people harbored and repressed negative emotions and deviant thoughts. Jung agreed that negative emotions were repressed in the unconscious, but he also felt that positive experiences, thoughts, and emotions could be held in the unconscious, too.

Jung also diverged from Freud’s theory of the unconscious by arguing that there was a second, even deeper unconscious mind existing in all human beings. Jung called the first level of unconscious (the one Freud also affirmed)  the “personal unconscious.”  The personal unconscious was created by personal experience.

The second level of the unconscious mind Jung called the “collective unconscious.” According to Jung, the collective unconscious consists of instinctual and universal thought patterns that humans developed over thousands of years of evolution. Jung called these primordial behavior blueprints “archetypes.” For Jung, archetypes form the foundation of all personal experience. It doesn’t matter whether you’re a sophisticated businessman living in a high-rise apartment in Manhattan or a bushman living in a hut in Africa; Jung would argue that no matter who you are, you have the same archetypal behaviors embedded within you.

Jung believed that these archetypes of human behavior came to the surface in the conscious mind through symbols, rituals, and myths. He argued these archetypical patterns explain why we see similar motifs and symbols in rituals and mythical stories across cultures. For example, the dying/resurrecting God figure can be found in the stories and myths of ancient Greeks, ancient Sumerians, Christians, and Native Americans.

Jung’s belief that the collective unconscious is reflected though symbols and ritual also likely explains his fascination with the mystical and esoteric. He was a serious student of fields like alchemy, astrology, dream interpretation, and tarot,  although not for their claimed ability to tell the future or to turn lead into gold. Rather, he explored these esoteric traditions because he believed they could help individuals tap into the collective unconscious and explore the archetypal behaviors that resided within.

Alright, so what are the archetypes that Jung believed existed in each person? While Jung suggested a number of universal archetypes, the four main ones are: the Self, the Shadow, the Animus and Anima, and the Persona. For the purpose of this article, I’m not going to go into detail on all four of these. If it’s something you’re interested in, I’d encourage you to investigate these archetypes on your own.

Before we move on, let’s be clear about something. Archetypes aren’t personality types. Jung didn’t think you could classify a person as a specific archetype. A man can’t take a test to tell him that he’s a “Shadow.” Rather, the archetypes are simply patterns of behavior and thought, or “energies” that can be found in all people in varying degrees.

The Four Archetypes of the Mature Masculine: King, Warrior, Magician, Lover

Psychologist Robert Moore took the concept of Jung’s archetypes and used it to create a framework that explained the development of mature and integral masculinity in men. Moore argued that the problems we see with men today–violence, shiftlessness, aloofness–are a result of modern men not adequately exploring or being in touch with the primal, masculine archetypes that reside within them. Like Jung, Moore believed that men and women possess both feminine and masculine archetypal patterns–this is the anima (feminine) and animus (masculine).

The problem with modern men is that Western society suppresses the animus or masculine archetype within them and instead encourages men to get in touch with their “softer side” or their anima. Moore would argue that there’s nothing wrong with men developing those softer, more nurturing and feminine behaviors. In fact, he would encourage it. A problem only arises when the development of the feminine comes at the expense of the masculine.

According to Moore, masculine psychology is made up of four major archetypes: King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover. In order for a man to achieve mature masculine strength and energy, he must be in touch with all four.

The Structure of the Archetypes

Moore argues that each male archetype consists of three parts: the full and highest expression of the archetype and two bi-polar dysfunctional shadows of the archetype. To better understand this, Moore portrays each archetype as a triangle. Here’s an example of the King archetype thusly illustrated:

The King Archetype

The bottom corners of the triangle represent the bi-polar shadow-split in the archetypal Self. The goal of each man, according to Moore, is to reconcile and integrate these two bi-polar shadows in order to attain the fullest expression of the archetype as represented at the top of the triangle.

Moreover, each archetype has a mature and immature form. Moore calls the mature forms of the masculine archetypes “Man Psychology” and the immature forms “Boy Psychology.” The mature masculine archetypes are the four we’ve already mentioned: King, Warrior, Magician, Lover. The immature, boyhood archetypes are the Divine Child, the Hero, the Precocious Child, and the Oedipal Child. Each of these immature archetypes have the same tripartite configuration as the mature archetypes. They all have their highest and fullest expression along with their two bi-polar dysfunctional shadows.

Before a boy can access the King archetype he must develop the Divine Child; before he can access the Warrior archetype, he must develop the Hero archetype. And so on and so forth.

Whew. That’s a lot to chew on and digest. It sounds complicated, but I think if you see Moore’s idea of the four masculine archetypes and the development from immature to mature masculinity in a diagram, it’s actually pretty easy to understand (Click the image to zoom in):

Click to see enlarged version

Over the next few months, we’ll be taking a look at each of the four archetypes and providing suggestions on how you can develop them more fully in your own life. Here’s a roadmap of what we have coming ahead:

  • Boyhood Archetypes
  • The King Archetype
  • The Warrior Archetype
  • The Magician Archetype
  • The Lover Archetype
  • How to Access the Archetypes
Like I said at the beginning of the post, Moore’s four masculine archetypes aren’t going to be everyone’s cup of joe. Some of his thoughts and ideas are sort of out there. However, I’d encourage you to keep an open mind about this stuff. Why? Well, first, I think it’s useful and just plain interesting to learn about an idea that has had a big influence on masculinity in America.
Second, the KWML framework is a useful tool to help you become a better man. While I don’t agree with everything that Moore lays out in KWML, I’ve personally found this framework useful in exploring and developing the mature masculine within myself. Maybe you will, too.

While being a man ultimately comes down to outwardly putting right principles into real action, those actions must come from a mature and healthy inner place, and these ideas, when thoughtfully reflected upon, can help get you pointed in the right direction as you seek to become the best man you can be.

I’d recommend getting a copy of the book so you can follow along as we go through the archetypes, as it will let you get more in-depth if your curiosity is piqued. Plus, I’d love to hear the insights you’ve gleaned while reading.

Related posts:

  1. 3 Archetypes of American Manliness- Part II: The Heroic Artisan
  2. 3 Archetypes of American Manliness- Part III: The Self-Made Man
  3. 3 Archetypes of American Manliness-Part I: The Genteel Patriarch
  4. Men’s Reading List: 34 Books About Being a Man


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